I'm really excited, and trying to stay calm and centered about this all, but I'm having a surgery I've been wanting to get done for years tomorrow. Tomorrow, I go in at 7:30am, and I am getting sterilized
! More Specifically;
I'm having a Bilateral Salpingectemy
, or Mandarr-is-getting-her-fallopian-tubes-taken-out.
For those who know me personally or follow me on other social media sites, you probably know that I'm Childfree
. I have never looked into my future and seen kids. I have never looked at a baby and felt an overwhelming desire to procreate. Its just not my nature. And I firmly believe children should only be brought into this world if they are truly wanted.
So I took steps earlier this year to start a paper trail so that I could hopefully get this procedure in the next few years. Surprise! My doctors were very accommodating, and didn't belittle my life choices, it was amazing! It took all of 5 minutes to get a referral from my doctor for a GYN, and then 15 minutes with the GYN for her to agree to give me a Tubal!
As a 25 yo woman who has never had children, that was MIND BLOWING.I'm announcing this online because I feel like this is part of my identity, and this type of choice needs to be as normal as popping out a baby!
There are so many life scripts in the world, and I know that the alternative life scripts don't always get any lime light. There are a lot of people in the world who would say some nasty things to me because of my choice not to procreate. That I'm selfish, that I'll regret my choice, that I'll change my mind, how could I do that when there are women who can't have children? There is a stigma for women who chose to never had children, they are made out to be lonely old bitter women. But we aren't!!
I know myself and my desires. I'd rather regret never having a child, than regret making a child and becoming a mother. (Though I'm 110% sure I'm never going to regret this procedure.
) Children should always be wanted. If you don't want a child, don't have one!
And guess what? NOT having kids IS AN OPTION
. We live in a world where "First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes baby in a baby carriage" is NOT the only life you could live! We all get to CHOOS
E our path and our life. It's perfectly okay to have children. It's also perfectly okay to NOT have children.
Both paths can lead to happy and fulfilling lives.So whether you build a Family of 5, where you have three dogs, or a Family of 6, where you have two kids a goldfish and a cat, just remember that a Family is the life you build together, not what you procreate!